How and Why I Became a Therapist

College

So, I was 18 years old, fresh out of high school and essentially no clue as to what I wanted to be when I grew up. So what did I do? I went to a four-year school for a degree in communications. Fast forward to two semesters later and my once A’s and B’s were quickly sliding down to C’s and D’s. Apparently communications was not for me.

So what did I do? I changed schools and decided to give community college a try. My mom had been a registered nurse for over 30 years so my thought was, why not? Well, you guessed it. Those C’s and D’s were leering their heads again. It was at that point that I was seriously second guessing my ability at this college thing.

 

Relationships & Life Events

So by 20 years old, I had been dating a guy for a few months. Soon into the relationship, I discovered that he had a pretty bad drug problem. After much consideration, I ended that relationship, only to find myself dating another guy with the same exact drug addiction.

It was also around this time, that my older sister died suddenly. After ending it with Boyfriend Number 2 and trying my best to grieve the loss of my sister, I found myself suffering from debilitating panic attacks and Depression. I was having trouble going to school or work and sometimes even leaving the house.

 

Coping and New Opportunities

During the next few years , I worked hard at getting myself to a stable place emotionally. I soon discovered something. I was interested in becoming a counselor. So I transferred to a different community college and completed a 2 year degree in drug and alcohol counseling. I was 25 at the time and of course here came Anxiety telling me “Oh my you are too old to still be in college!” But that didn’t stop my passion.

 

Keep At It

Age 27 meant getting my Bachelor’s degree in Social work and by 28 I had my Master’s in Social Work. I am now a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Private Practice, doing the work I love most.

 

Always Learning

So what did I learn from my journey through school? Well,that life certainly will not play out as expected! Did I have moments where I second guessed my talents and abilities? Sure. Did I have major life events that impacted my ability to cope effectively? You betcha! But I didn’t let that stop me from achieving my goals.

 

 

Do these life struggles sound familiar to you? Have you at times been your own worst critic and felt like you were not capable of achieving great things? If so, contact me and let’s put together a plan of action.

eglcsw@eileengrudierlcsw.com

The Risks of Diagnosing Yourself and Why You Should Never Do It

A formal diagnosis is often the first step on the road to healing from a mental illness. Many times, people visit their doctors or therapist in order to get a diagnosis. They take tests, answer questions and provide information a clinician can use in order to get to the cause of the discomfort.

But sometimes people skip the doctor’s office and they hop online to diagnose their own diseases. While this method might seem faster, it can be very dangerous.

 

Stats
According to research, 59% of U.S. adults say they use the Internet to research and gather health information. Approximately 35% of those adults end up using the information they find to diagnose themselves. This new wave of self-diagnosers has inspired something called cyberchondria. People have become obsessed with identifying their own illnesses.

Groups that are more likely to turn to the Internet instead of medical professionals include women, those who earn more than $75,000 a year, young adults, Caucasians, and those who have college or advanced degrees.

 

Hidden Symptoms
One of the greatest dangers of self diagnosis of mental health issues, is that you may miss a medical disease that disguises itself as a psychiatric condition. If you have panic disorder, you may miss a diagnosis of hyperthyroidism or an irregular heart beat. Some brain tumors may present with changes in personality, psychosis or even depression. If you assume you have depression and treat it with an over-the-counter medication, you may completely miss a medical condition.

People with mood swings often think that they have bipolar disorder. However, mood swings are a symptom that can be a part of many different conditions like borderline personality disorder and major depression. A clinician can help you understand your symptoms.

 

Skewed Perceptions
Then there is the fact that can know ourselves, but sometimes, we need a mirror to see ourselves more clearly. The doctor or therapist can be that mirror. By self-diagnosing, you may be missing something that you cannot see. For example, you may be overwhelmed by anxiety and think that you have an anxiety disorder. The anxiety disorder may be covering up a major depressive disorder. Approximately 2/3 of people who present to outpatient clinics with anxiety have depression as well. When people self-diagnose, they often miss the multiple issues that exist.

 

A Mountain out of a Mole Hill
Another danger of self diagnosis is that you may think that there is more wrong with you than there actually is. For example, if you had insomnia, trouble focusing and depression, you may believe that you have a sleep disorder, ADHD and major depression. However, major depression can account for all of these symptoms. Thus, you may make things worse by worrying more.

 

Wrong Treatment
People who believe that they’re diagnosed with a specific medical or mental health condition may attempt to cure that problem by changing their diet, or taking over-the-counter medications. Unfortunately,  they might be taking steps they simply don’t need to take.

Another risk is that people might end up treating themselves with methods that will actually cause harm. For example, someone might try to treat their weight problem with pills that were prescribed for someone else, or illegally obtained on the street. They might decide that the best way to lose weight is to starve themselves by fasting or by engaging in strenuous physical workouts on a regular basis. Strenuous exercise might be appropriate for some people, but it might provoke a heart attack in someone else or simply lead to pain and that would discourage them from pursuing further healthier methods for weight loss.

 

Not Taking Care of The Real Problem

Meanwhile, if people are addressing one problem while ignoring the real source of the issue, they may find that their original complaint grows much more serious. For example, people who assume they have a brain tumor might begin to dabble in drug abuse in order to make the pain fade, and they may believe that they’re facing a terminal illness and therefore don’t have long to live, so there’s no reason to be sober.

 

 

Yes it’s true we live in a tech age where everyone and anyone has a laptop, tablet or smartphone. These devices serve many purposes but do yourself a favor.  The next time you aren’t feeling well, instead of hopping on Google, make an appointment with your physician or therapist first.

 

 

 

If you think you may be suffering from an anxiety disorder, please contact me at:

eglcsw@eileengrudierlcsw.com

 

REFERENCES
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/debunking-myths-the-mind/201005/the-dangers-self-diagnosis
http://www.dualdiagnosis.org/dual-diagnosis-treatment/dangers-self-diagnosis/
https://www.mentalhelp.net/articles/risks-of-self-diagnosis/
http://www.insurancequotes.org/health/dangers-of-online-self-diagnosis-2/

The Best Ways to Reduce Anxiety on Your Own

Anxiety is tough but sometimes asking for help with your anxiety is even worse.  Here are a few techniques you can start using on your own to help fight your anxious mind.  As always though, check with your doctor first before beginning any new diet and/or exercise.

 

Start Deep-Breathing

1. Sit with your eyes closed and turn your attention to your breathing. Breathe naturally without attempting to control your breath.

2. Be aware of the sensation of the breath as it enters and leaves the nostrils. Place one hand on your belly, and the other on your chest. Take a deep breath for a count of four. Hold your breath for a count of three. Exhale for a count of four. The hand on your belly should go in as you inhale, and move out as you exhale.

3. Concentrate on your breath and forget everything else. Your mind will be very busy, and you may even feel that the meditation is making your mind busier, but the reality is you’re just becoming more aware of how busy your mind is.

4. Resist the temptation to follow the different thoughts as they arise, and focus on the sensation of the breath. If you discover that your mind has wandered and is following your thoughts, immediately return it to the breath.

5. Repeat this as many times as necessary until your mind settles on the breath.

Or try various guided relaxation exercises. Here is an example in the following video:

 

 

Practice Self-Care

Try to get outside in natural sunlight for 15 minutes a day. This is the best way to naturally increase your vitamin-D levels, which can decrease symptoms of anxiety disorders and depression. A short 15 minute break will not only take your mind of stress, but also let you reap the benefits of outdoor activity.  If you’re stuck in an urban area, look for parks or quiet tree-lined streets to take a stroll.

Get a massage, a mani-pedi, or a haircut.  If money is tight, look for a discount salon or a training school which offers quality services for people on a budget.

 

Eliminate Soda or Coffee

That morning cup may jump start your day, but anything with sugar or caffeine will not.
Switch it out for a soothing green tea. Not only does the caffeine jack up your central nervous system, but soda depletes your body of vitamins and minerals and wreaks havoc on your teeth.
Try to drink three cups of chamomile tea a day when you’re feeling anxious

 

Trim the Fat from Your Budget

Financial stress is a common reason people seek psychotherapy. Debt will keep you up at night and contribute to feelings of low self-worth and hopelessness.
Take charge of your finances and stop spending on non-essentials. Track your daily expenses for a week or two and decide where you can cut back.

EXAMPLES:
Switch out your cable TV for Netflix
Contact your car insurance carrier, your cell phone company, or your credit card company and ask to lower your bill.  

 

Get Rid of the Clutter

Do you ever wonder how much time is lost when you can’t find your car keys or your wallet or your son’s lunchbox? Chances are you’ve got too much stuff clogging up your living space.

Try these tips:

1. Choose a drawer, cabinet or closet
2. Categorize the stuff you don’t use
3. Make three piles for a) Items to throw away, b) Items to donate, and c) Items to sell

 

Plan a Day Trip

When you spend time in nature, you give your mind and body a much-needed break. Chances are no matter where you live, there’s a serene, interesting and charming place within a couple of hours.

 

Go to Bed Early

This may sound impossible but this one’s a MUST. Sleep deprivation is a huge anxiety culprit. Inadequate shuteye can increase overall anxiety levels.

Wake up 15 Minutes Early

Like most anxious people, you’re probably rushing around in the morning. Go slowly, and set yourself up for a relaxed day ahead. If you start to worry about your To-Do list, take a deep breath and tell yourself  there is enough time.

 

Get Your Lavender On!

Lavender oil has many healing properties and can be used as a natural remedy to reduce anxiety.

1. Add essential lavender oil to your bath water for a calming bath.
2. Fall asleep quicker when you add a few drops to a tissue and place under your pillow.
3. Use lavender in an oil diffuser to help with insomnia. The sweet woody smell of the lavender oil helps you to fall asleep and stay asleep.
4. For headaches, apply lavender oil to a cotton ball or your fingertips and massage slowly into your temples. The smell will relax you as the oil eases your headache.
5. Lavender is used in aromatherapy massage as a muscle relaxant. Massage the oil into the skin and soothe the muscles of the back and reduce spasms.
6. Lavender can help break up the mucous from nasal and chest congestion that accompanies a cold.
7. Inhale lavender oil to help with pain management, especially after a workout, a therapy session, or surgery.

 

Go Green!

Diet affects anxiety. A morning glass of green juice can get you on the right side of calm.

Try to get between 1 and 3 grams of omega-3 a day. There is some evidence that omega-3 fatty acids may ease symptoms of anxiety disorders and lift your mood by lowering levels of stress chemicals such as adrenaline and cortisol in the body. Canned fatty fish, such as tuna and salmon, walnuts, and flax seeds are all great sources of omega-3 fatty acids.

Add L-lysine to your diet. Studies have shown that people taking L-lysine supplements had reduced symptoms of anxiety and reduced levels of stress hormones. L-lysine is commonly found in meat, fish, and beans, and is also sold as an oral supplement.

 

Know that Feelings Are Not Facts

Negative thoughts cause negative feelings.

 

Challenge Negative Core Beliefs

Remember that thoughts come before feelings. Negative thoughts lead to negative emotions, which lead to negative behaviors.

 

How to challenge your negative mood:

1. Record your thoughts periodically. Pay attention to when you feel stressed out.

2. Write the feelings that accompany the thoughts. Think one-word responses like frustrated, angry, worthless and defeated, etc.

3. Challenge reality. Is there proof you don’t deserve that job promotion? Were you written up because of bad work performance?

If you commit to recording your daily thoughts and feelings, along with reality testing, you’ll see that many of your negative feelings are created in your mind, and not based in reality. The good news is you created the negative thought, and you can stop it.

 

Attend a Social Gathering (Even If You Don’t Want To)

If you’re prone to social anxiety, it’s important to make time for socialization. It’s cool to be an introvert, but know that we live in a universe that revolves around connecting with others.

 

Schedule a Physical Exam to Rule Out a Medical Condition for Your Anxiety

If your anxiety has spiked recently, or if you were previously able to cope with life, and now not so much, your doctor can determine if there’s a medical condition responsible for your anxiety. Ask for blood work, and be honest about your symptoms.

 

Exercise, Exercise, Exercise!

Exercise is nature’s anti-anxiety remedy. Besides clearing the mind and helping you sleep soundly at night, researchers have found that individuals who exercise vigorously and regularly were 25 percent less likely to develop an anxiety disorder within five years.

 

Schedule a Visit with a Therapist

Nobody deserves to feel bad. A qualified professional is your best bet if your anxiety is unbearable. If you are thinking of getting help for your anxiety, please email me at:

eglcsw@eileengrudierlcsw.com

 

REFERENCES
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anxiety-zen/201405/22-quick-tips-change-your-anxiety-forever
https://www.rd.com/health/conditions/natural-anxiety-relief/

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How to Beat Holiday Stress

You know the feeling. That pit in your stomach when you think about work parties or a family get-together. The racing heart you feel when you imagine getting on a plane to visit your in-laws. The worry you have when you think about how many paychecks are left until Christmas day. The trembling and overwhelming dread you feel when you think about cooking all day for several people coming over later.

Anxiety is a fierce reality during the holidays. Not only are people preparing to entertain family and friends at large gatherings or packing for big trips, but there’s also the added stress of not having enough money for gifts or time to get out and buy those gifts as well as so many other anxiety-inducing activities.

Did I get the right present? Will they like it? How will I find time to spend Christmas with my family and also see my significant other’s family? Whose house will I have to go to on Christmas? How long will I have to be there? Where can I park so that I can leave if I feel like I have to? What will I be able to eat during Christmas dinner without feeling nauseated? What if I’m there past my usual bedtime? What if it’s too hot in the house? What if it’s too cold? What if some of the people there are sick? What if it’s contagious? How can I avoid them if they are? Do I have to stay for dessert even though I won’t eat any? How can I get out of this?

 

Signs that the Holidays are Getting to You
Sometimes the signs of holiday-induced anxiety are blatant, but that’s not always the case. Here are a few examples:

Irritability

Some people show their stress by putting energy into trying to fix things. They become irritable, which can make things more stressful by stressing out family and friends.

 

Withdrawal

Another common response to stress is withdrawal, which can cause someone to give up on to-do lists and holiday commitments. This can present as sadness, anger and feelings of bitterness.

 

Other symptoms

People with chronic stress or anxiety may also experience disrupted sleep, an inability to focus or feel scattered. Physical symptoms may occur as well, and include stomach upset, fatigue, frequent colds, muscle soreness and headaches.

 

 

What to Do

Stick to your daily routine as much as possible. This can be tough during the holidays but even doing a few things a day is helpful. For example, wake up at the same time, eat the same breakfast, and write about how you’re feeling every single day.

Prepare yourself to be anxious. There’s no way around it. You’re going to have to go out, be social, and gather with friends and family at places outside your comfort zone. So try your hardest to keep your self-talk positive. Write down coping strategies that help you when you’re most anxious and remind yourself that anxiety is okay.

Focus on family. Thinking about how you can make the holidays great for others can help you get out of your head and concentrate on things that will bring you joy.

Remind yourself that you are surrounded by love. Many friends and family members don’t understand what’s it’s like to deal with anxiety on a daily basis but they are still family. They love you and care about you. And sometimes that’s enough.

 

 

Overcome Your Travel Fears
Holiday travel can also trigger anxiety. People with panic disorder or agoraphobia may find overcrowded airports and train stations overwhelming. Those with generalized anxiety disorder may find a host of new things to worry about while traveling.

It’s important to remember that avoidance will not help overcome an anxiety problem, and it may even stir up other feelings or consequences, such as being the only family member absent from the holiday dinner.

Instead of dreading travel, consider it a chance to practice facing your fears.

Plan and confirm all details. Try to book flights that leave early in the day, when airports tend to be less crowded. Always confirm flight, hotel, and car rental reservations. Allow time to pack so you can organize your belongings and bring everything you need.

Make a list of activities you will engage in while traveling. Prepare for potential anxiety-inducing situations by practicing stress-reducing techniques such as slow, deep breathing, meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation.

Put anxiety-reducing techniques to work. If you have a fear of flying, tell the gate agent or flight attendant when you check in and board.

Ask if you can meet the pilot and copilot. Ask them a personal question, such as “Do you have a family?” Seeing that the people flying the plane are real people can be comforting.

If you have a fear of enclosed spaces, you may want to request an aisle seat so you can get up and move around should you feel the need.

 

Other tips on how to De-Stress
Take the pressure off yourself. The higher your expectations, the more you’re likely to feel let down. Know that some things won’t go exactly as planned and that’s just fine.

Remember that most people aren’t paying much attention to you. You may feel as if people are focusing on you, but in reality, most people are probably wondering what you are thinking of them. Try making a compliment, which can make others feel good, make you feel good, and reduce some stress.

Identify your specific concerns. Are you afraid you will say the wrong thing or embarrass yourself? Remind yourself that although you may feel uncomfortable, that’s the worst that can happen.

Don’t look for relief in alcohol or drugs. Although it can be tempting to take the edge off at holiday events, alcohol and drugs can make anxiety worse and may trigger panic attacks.

Smile, make eye contact, and ask questions. Most people like to talk about themselves and their interests. Ask other people about their holiday plans, what their kids are doing, or what book they’re reading. Avoid topics that can lead to heated discussions and add to your stress.

Choose to say no. Try not to over-schedule yourself during the holiday season. You don’t have to accept every invitation. You may want to eliminate some traditions that cause you more stress than joy.

 

 

If you are finding that the upcoming holidays are bringing you more stress, please contact me at:
eglcsw@eileengrudierlcsw.com

 

 

REFERENCES
https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/how-keep-holiday-induced-stress-under-control-ncna822546
https://adaa.org/living-with-anxiety/managing-anxiety/managing-holiday-anxieties
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-s-mental-health-matters/201512/anxiety-makes-the-holidays-harder%3famp

 

How Can Medication Help Anxiety?

Many times, people will try medication to control anxiety before starting therapy. When a person has a panic attack, he or she might go to the emergency room or to a family doctor and get a prescription. This is often because many of the symptoms of anxiety (racing heart, trouble breathing, nausea or teeth grinding) can be mistaken for physical problems.
If a doctor discovers that it is anxiety that is causing the person’s issues, he or she may prescribe one of several drugs to help with the symptoms.

 

How Do You Know If You Should Be Using Medication?

Are you having panic attacks a few times a week or more?
Are you able to push aside your worry to focus on a task or do you find that you can’t draw your attention away from your worry?
Do you often feel so sick to your stomach with worry that it affects how you eat or sleep?
Do you quickly get red in the face, have shaky legs, stutter or have a racing heart even at the thought that someone might notice your anxiety?
Do you ever feel so terrified of being in a public place that you refuse to go?

 

What Do Medications Do for Your Brain?

Medications change the way neurotransmitters work. Neurotransmitters are chemicals in your brain. The most common kinds of drugs that work on these chemicals are called SSRIs, Benzodiazepines, and Azapirones.

 

Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs)

When your brain is low in serotonin, you may be more negative than most, have trouble concentrating, find it hard to stop worry or panic, or have trouble seeing good solutions to problems. SSRIs help you manage your thoughts and your mood. This makes your brain more effective and can help you learn to deal with your anxiety faster. SSRIs are not addictive. They simply help your brain make more serotonin. The most common SSRIs are:

Prozac
Zoloft
Paxil
Luvox
Celexa
Lexapro

Another medication called an SNRI (Serotonin and Norepinephrine Reuptake Inhibitor) also works to increase certain chemicals in your brain. These drugs include:

Effexor
Cymbalta
Pristiq

It’s important to keep in mind that when a medication is non-addictive, it may take several weeks before it starts helping your brain make those chemicals and even longer for your brain to maintain those chemicals. You should often expect to be on a medication for several months to a year.

 

Benzodiazepines

Benzodiazepines can be addictive. If you have a history of drug or alchol use, please be careful with these medications. Benzodiazepines help by decreasing the feelings of panic and anxiety. They are often suggested along with SSRIs. Benzodiazepines should not be stopped without the okay from your doctor as there can be withdrawal symptoms. Withdrawal symptoms are unpleasant feelings that occur when a drug is stopped suddenly or too quickly. The most common benzodiazepines include:

Xanax
Ativan
Klonopin

Benzodiazepines work on the chemical GABA, which slows down the firing between your brain cells. Calming effects of benzodiazepines usually occur within 20 minutes and can last for several hours.

 

Buspirone

Buspirone, or Buspar, is a different anti-anxiety drug called an Azapirone. Azapirones work on serotonin differently than SSRIs. These drugs also work on Dopamine in your brain by taking the edge off your anxiety. Buspirone does not work right away like other medications. It may be best for people with Generalized Anxiety Disorder.

 

Other Medications

At times, your doctor may suggest a medication that is used “off-label”. This means that the drug is not sold for the use that your doctor is prescribing it for. Certain heart medications called beta-blockers may be prescribed as needed for reducing rapid heart and flushing skin that can happen with panic or anxiety. There are also some anti-seizure medications that can also help reduce anxiety symptoms.

 

PLEASE NOTE: Medication will not teach you anxiety management techniques. It can, however, calm you enough to so that you can start learning and using the techniques. Appropriate therapy can help you eliminate your anxiety symptoms without medication but there are times when medication is an important aid to feeling better.

 

If you have questions about whether or not you should be on medication for your anxiety, talk with your family doctor. He or she may recommend you start therapy. Please contact me via email at:
eglcsw@eileengrudierlcsw.com

 

 

 

REFERENCES
Wehrenberg, M. (2008) The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques. New York: W.W. Norton and Company Inc.

What You Can Do To Combat Insomnia

Do you struggle to get to sleep? Do you wake up in the middle of the night and lie awake for hours? Insomnia is a common problem that affects your energy, mood, and ability to function during the day. It can even cause  health problems. But have no fear. By working on the underlying causes of your insomnia and making changes to your daily habits and sleep environment you can put a stop to the frustration and finally get a good night’s sleep.

What is Insomnia
Insomnia is the inability to fall asleep or stay asleep. This results in unrefreshing sleep. Because different people need different amounts of sleep, insomnia is the quality of your sleep and how you feel after sleeping, not the number of hours you sleep or how quickly you doze off. Even if you’re spending eight hours a night in bed, if you feel drowsy during the day, you may be experiencing insomnia.

Symptoms of insomnia:
Difficulty falling asleep despite being tired
Waking up frequently during the night
Trouble getting back to sleep when awakened
Unrefreshing sleep
Relying on sleeping pills or alcohol to fall asleep
Waking up too early in the morning
Daytime drowsiness, fatigue, or irritability
Difficulty concentrating during the day

Insomnia is often a symptom of another problem. The problem causing the insomnia differs from person to person. It could be something like drinking too much caffeine during the day, an underlying medical condition or feeling overloaded with responsibilities.

Research Your Sleep
In order to treat your insomnia, you need to look at how you sleep. Things like stress, anxiety, and depression cause half of all insomnia cases. Your daytime habits, sleep routine, and physical health may also play a role. Try to identify all the possible causes of your insomnia.

Are you under a lot of stress?
Are you depressed?
Do you struggle with anxiety or worry?
Have you recently gone through a traumatic experience?
Are you taking any medications that might be affecting your sleep?
Do you have any health problems that may be interfering with sleep?
Is your sleep environment quiet and comfortable?
Do you try to go to bed and get up around the same time every day?

Various Causes of Insomnia
Sometimes, insomnia only lasts a few days and goes away on its own if it is tied to a temporary cause. Things like:

Stress over an upcoming presentation
A painful breakup
Jet lag

Emotional Causes of Insomnia
Anxiety, stress, and depression are some of the most common causes of chronic insomnia. Having difficulty sleeping can also make anxiety, stress, and depression symptoms worse. Other common emotional causes include:

Anger
Worry
Grief
Bipolar disorder
Trauma

Medical Conditions that Cause Insomnia
Asthma
Allergies
Parkinson’s disease
Hyperthyroidism
Acid reflux
Kidney disease
Cancer
Chronic pain

Many prescription drugs can interfere with sleep, including:
Antidepressants
Stimulants for ADHD
Corticosteroids
Thyroid hormone
High blood pressure medications
Contraceptives.
Cold and flu medications that contain alcohol
Pain relievers that contain caffeine (Midol, Excedrin)
Diuretics and slimming pills

Insomnia can also be a symptom of other sleep disorders, including:
Sleep apnea
Restless legs syndrome
Circadian rhythm disturbances tied to jet lag or late-night shift work

Identifying Habits that Cause insomnia
While treating underlying issues is a first step, you also need to look at your daily habits. Having an irregular sleep schedule, napping for too long, eating sugary foods or heavy meals too close to bedtime, and not getting enough exercise or exercising too late in the day can all cause poor sleep. Not only can poor daytime habits contribute to insomnia, but a poor night’s sleep can make these habits harder to correct, creating a vicious cycle of unrefreshing sleep. Keeping a sleep diary is a helpful way to identify habits and behaviors causing your insomnia.

Get a Better Sleep Environment and Routine
Make sure your bedroom is quiet, dark, and cool. Try using a sound machine or earplugs to mask outside noise. Open a window or turn on a fan to keep the room cool. Put up blackout curtains or wear an eye mask to block out light. Experiment with different types of mattresses and pillows that provide the support you need.

Stick to a regular sleep schedule. Try to go to bed and get up at the same time every day, including weekends. This will help you get back in a regular sleep rhythm.

Turn off all screens at least an hour before bed. Electronic screens emit a  light that affects your body’s production of melatonin and combats sleepiness. Instead of watching TV or spending time on your phone, tablet, or computer, choose another relaxing activity, such as reading a book or listening to soft music.

Avoid stimulating activity and stressful situations before bedtime. This includes big discussions or arguments with your spouse or family or catching up on work. Postpone these things until the morning.

Avoid naps. Napping during the day can make it more difficult to sleep at night. If you feel like you have to take a nap, limit it to 30 minutes before 3 p.m.

 

Things to avoid before bed:
***Drinking too many liquids. Waking up at night to go to the bathroom becomes a bigger problem as we age. By not drinking anything an hour before sleep and going to the bathroom before you get ready for bed, you can reduce the frequency you’ll wake up at night.

***Alcohol. While a nightcap may help you to relax and fall asleep, it interferes with your sleep once you’re out, causing you to wake up during the night.

***Big evening meals. Try to make dinnertime earlier in the evening. Avoid heavy, rich foods within two hours of bed. Avoid spicy or acidic foods, which can cause stomach trouble and heartburn during the night.

***Caffeine. Stop drinking caffeinated beverages at least six hours before bedtime. People who are sensitive to caffeine may need to stop even earlier.

Train your body to associate your bed with sleep and nothing else. Use the bedroom only for sleeping and sex. Don’t work, watch TV, or use your computer in bed or the bedroom. Your brain and body will get a strong signal that it’s time to nod off when you get into bed.

Get out of bed when you can’t sleep. Don’t try to force yourself to sleep. Tossing and turning only increases your anxiety. Leave the bedroom and do something relaxing, such as reading, drinking a cup of tea, or taking a bath. When you’re sleepy, go back to bed.

 

Combat Anxiety that Keeps You from Your Sleep
The more trouble you have with sleep, the more it starts to invade your thoughts. You may dread going to sleep because you just know that you’re going to toss and turn for hours. Maybe you’re worried because you have a big day tomorrow. Expecting sleep difficulties only makes insomnia worse. Worrying about getting to sleep floods your body with adrenaline.

Challenge Worries and Thoughts that Fuel Insomnia
Many people complain that frustrating, negative thoughts and worries prevent them from sleeping at night. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be effective in addressing insomnia. CBT is a form of psychotherapy that works to modify negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
It’s helpful to challenge your negative thoughts and attitudes about your sleep and your insomnia. The key is to recognize these thoughts and replace them with more realistic ones. For Example:

Self-defeating thought:
“I should be able to sleep well every night like a normal person. I shouldn’t have a problem!”
Sleep-promoting comeback:
“Lots of people struggle with sleep from time to time. I will be able to sleep with practice”.

Exaggeration:
“It’s the same every single night, another night of sleepless misery”.
Replacement:
“Not every night is the same. Some nights I do sleep better than others”.

When Insomnia Keeps You up in the Middle of the Night
Make relaxation your goal, not sleep. Try a relaxation technique such as visualization, progressive muscle relaxation, or meditation, which can be done without even getting out of bed. Even though it’s not a replacement for sleep, relaxation can still help rejuvenate your mind and body.
Promote relaxation by rubbing your ears or rolling your eyes. Another simple way to promote sleep is to close your eyes and slowly roll them upwards a few times.
Relaxation techniques that can help you get back to sleep
Abdominal breathing. Breathing deeply and fully, involving not only the chest, but also the belly and lower back can help relaxation. Close your eyes and take deep, slow breaths, making each breath even deeper than the last. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Progressive muscle relaxation. Make yourself comfortable. Starting with your feet, tense the muscles as tightly as you can. Hold for a count of 10, and then relax. Continue to do this for every muscle group in your body, working your way up from your feet to the top of your head.
Mindfulness meditation. Sit or lie quietly and focus on your natural breathing and how your body feels in the moment. Allow thoughts and emotions to come and go without judgment, always returning to focus on breath and your body.

Using Supplements and Medication Wisely
When you’re tossing and turning at night, it can be tempting to turn to sleep aids for relief. Although sleep aids may be described as “natural,” be aware that they can still have side effects and interfere with other medications or vitamins you’re taking. For more information, talk to your doctor.

Melatonin is a naturally occurring hormone that your body produces at night. It helps regulate your sleep-wake cycle and is available as an over-the-counter supplement. While melatonin doesn’t work for everyone, it may be an effective insomnia treatment for you—especially if you’re an extreme “night owl” with a natural tendency to go to bed and get up much later than others.
Valerian is an herb with mild sedative effects that may help you sleep better. However, the quality of valerian supplements varies widely.

Prescription Sleeping Pills for Insomnia
While prescription sleep medications can provide temporary relief, they are not a cure for insomnia. If not used carefully, they actually make insomnia worse in the long run. First, try changing your sleep habits, your daily routine, and your attitudes about sleep. Lifestyle and behavioral changes make the most lasting difference when it comes to insomnia.

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Insomnia: Symptoms, Causes, and Treatment